How to build Confidence?

Everyone is born with confidence. Based on your action or inaction and the feedback you get externally for your actions, you demonstrate a confidence profile of yours to everyone around you, and slowly over the period of time, your confidence level gets molded, either towards the stronger side or the weaker.

However, the good news is that, Confidence is a skill which you can develop by practice.
Irrespective of your present level of confidence, it can be improved.

Following are some of the crucial factors which affect your confidence.

  1. Knowledge 
  2. Good communication skills
  3. Self Esteem
  4. Appearance, Body language & Physical Fitness
  5. Preparedness and Practice
  6. Motivation & Energy
  7. Interpersonal skills

Let’s visit each of these factors in detail.

1. Knowledge
Knowledge about the topic of concern gives you a natural boost to feel confident. Work out hard here to acquire good knowledge on your area of interest, work or business.After all, everyone appreciates the value you can add, which in most cases is dependent on the knowledge you have.

2. Good communication skills
Knowledge alone is not sufficient. You should be having good communication skills to share your knowledge. As you are aware this includes various aspects including vocal communication skills, fluency of language, good writing skills, good demonstration and presentation skills. So, grab every opportunity out there which you get next time to speak up, and communicate your ideas to others.

3. Appearance & Body language
One you are powered up by knowledge and good communication skills, the next factor that can improve your confidence levels is your external appearance including your dress and body language. Dress sharply and groom yourself accordingly to the situation. Being properly dressed makes you more comfortable and gives yourself a feel of being a star of the day. Your posture, your hand movements, facial expressions and gestures also adds to your confidence. Observe in front of mirror how your normal posture and body language is, and try to improve on finer aspects.

4) Preparedness &Practice
Nervousness or diffidence comes when you are unprepared, or you are in a strange situation which is out of your comfort zone. Practice and preparation makes something that which is strange to you, common and natural. The more you practice and prepare yourself for that meeting or presentation of yours the more comfortable you become and the more confident you feel.
Repetition and practice makes it perfect.

5) Motivation & Energy
Are you internally motivated with high level of both physical and mental energy.Keep yourself physically fit, with adequate amount of food, exercise and sleep which will keep your energy levels high. This will keep you away from any other distractions enabling you to focus and thus becoming more confident to the moment.

6) Interpersonal skills
After all, confidence comes into play mostly in the context when you are with others. Developing good interpersonal skills also help you feel at ease with other people and add to your confidence.

7) Self Esteem
Quite often you will be surrounded by people whom you think are better than you, which is quite natural. But you don’t have to feel inferior and it’s having a good self esteem which matters here. The concept of having a sense of good will for yourself is important. There will be failures and hardships in life, and it is self esteem and self belief that, we are worth something, or that you are good for something which keeps you motivated and going.

We will be covering details of ‘How to develop good self esteem’ in a separate article.

What do you think are the other factors that affect your confidence? Share how you are working on these factors?